Program & Services

When Domestic Violence Comes to Work

Domestic violence can be very scary and dangerous. And, it can easily show up at work. Along with brining danger to work, it can lead to missed days. I can also lead to less work being done. Women are usually the victims. Men can also be abused.

Victims may be too embarrassed to get help. Or they may be too afraid. Let employees know that help is available. Tell them that the help is confidential. Let them know that victims will be treated with respect and concern.

Possible signs

Look out for changes in behavior or work performance such as;

• Preoccupation/lack of concentration
• Increasing or unexplained absences
• Harassing phone calls to the workplace
• Bruises or other injuries that are unexplained or their explanations just don't add up

If you are a manager and see these signs, or other signs, offer your help. Show your concern. In private, tell the employee what you have seen. "I noticed the bruises you had last week. You look upset today." Tell her of your concern that she might be abused: "I thought it was possible that you are being hurt by someone. I am concerned about you." Tell her of your support: "No one deserves to be hit." If the employee does not want to talk about it, don't do anything. Tell her your door is open.

If the employee does tell you something, get them help. Do not take charge of the employee's safety yourself. There are risks. You can increase the employee's danger if you get involved. It is essential that the employee receive advice from experience people in the field.

Employees can call the National Domestic Violence Hotline. The number is 1-800-799-7233. The hotline staff can tell the employee where and how to get help. Explain again that anything she says is confidential. But if there is a clear threat at work, you and anybody else who knows would need to seek help.

The employee should work on a safety plan. This plan needs qualified advice. Then offer your help in working out a plan for work. This plan may involve temporary changes. You may need to move the employee to a more secure location. Or you may need to change the work schedule. Your security office can help with this kind of planning.

Make sure the employee knows you can talk about work related issues. The employee may need some time off. She may have a court appointment. If you think anything else, let her know. But do not pressure her. Show respect for her decisions.

Remember how working can help. Being a victim can make people feel alone. They may not be able to see friends or family. It can rob them of their self confidence. Having a chance to succeed, contribute, and be part of a team can be a real lifeline for the employee.